Wednesday, August 25, 2021

Tuesdays With Pappo: "The Family Partnership"

 


TUESDAY'S WITH PAPPO.....brought the two of us some mighty sweet together-time this week.


Pappo and I had our heads meshed together for two hours, comparing stories and laughing over the past. And he handed me his latest Senior Center Writing Class article. The latest from his memory bank. Hope you enjoy!!

"The Family Partnership"
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This is a family story as told to me by my late Uncle Bill Calloway. As near as I can tell, it happened after the Civil War and somewhere around 1870.

My Uncle Bill lost all of his livestock and his three teams of horses. He was left with just four hogs and his faithful hunting dogs.

His home place was in Alabama. He had 11 acres with 2 of those acres fronting Highway 31, the main road between Birmingham and Montgomery. Times were hard. Uncle Bill and his wife Aunt Essie started a small leather goods store making and selling horse harnesses and work shoes, as well as other leather goods.

Soon after, Aunt Essie suffered a disabling stroke and was unable to assist Uncle Bill at the store, where he continued to work daily alone. Each day when he would arrive home from work, Essie would ask how the store was doing and he would discuss the happenings of the day.

This went on for several years until one day, Essie couldn't stand not seeing the store and doing her part. She took the dog and her cane and slowly made her way up the road to the store. As she got close enough to see it, to her surprise, the store was dark inside and Uncle Bill, with a tray hanging from around his neck, was selling shoelaces and buttons and other small items from the tray.

Aunt Essie then realized the hospital and doctor bills had used up all their money and Uncle Bill had to sell the store and its contents to pay the medical bills. She went to her grave never telling him she knew what he had to do and is now resting beside him and my mother in a small country church cemetery in Verbena, Alabama.

Wednesday, August 4, 2021

And She Said "Yes"

 

I think I knew he was “the one” when I received the letter titled “Dear Chuck” and it was dated March 21, 2021....Chuck’s birthday.

It started off like this:

“Dear Chuck,

I wanted to say Happy Earthly Birthday to you. I’m thinking you might know my life history and what’s happening now, but on the inside, it’s been an amazing few months. As you, Cyndi, Liz and I know, God has been directing our lives for many years. Liz has told me so much about you and your son and his family. I know you were a very special man from everything I’ve read in Liz’s blog. A few week’s ago, she shared the story of her wedding ring and what happened when she went to have it repaired. I will never forget the look in her eyes when she shared that story with me. The love poured out for you and it was beautiful. I’ll never forget it.”

As I read this letter, tears were dripping down my face. I hadn’t shared the story of the ring with many.....only those I knew would understand. And this man understood. We were in the exact same place in our grief process....in our time alone without our partners...and our confusion about the future. See, our spouses died on the exact same day, four hours apart.

The letter went on:

“Liz is an answer to many prayers and continues to make my heart full. I’m not sure what God has planned for us, but I wanted to ensure you that I will treat her with the utmost respect. I will care for and protect her. I believe God gave me an opportunity at this time in my life to know love again and not only with Liz, but with a renewed love for our Lord and Savior. “

Tears are falling even now as I reread this letter to you. He went on to tell Chuck how much he admired him and the courage it took to fight Multiple Sclerosis. His wife, Cyndi, had also fought a long battle; hers with cancer, and he knew the courage and determination it takes to fight such diseases. He knew, because he too had been a caregiver for Cyndi just as I had for Chuck.

This past Tuesday evening, in a plane high above Frisco seven months and 86 dates after our paths crossed and we discovered the definition of Joy again, he had me look out the side window and see the lighted words, 
 “Marry Me” 1000 feet below. I said “Absolutely Yes”
 

It has been both of our prayers since losing Cyndi and Chuck, that if we were meant to find a partner to finish out this 4th quarter of our lives with, that God would make it abundantly clear to us. I believe He answered that prayer in the boldest, most unpredictable way He could. And He sent me Wayne Sekerke.
 

We will always celebrate Chuck and Cyndi’s Homecoming Day of November 5, 2018....but from now on, we’ll celebrate them together.